I was a very ardent soccer fan when I was younger. I guess this was born from the fact that my father lived and breathed soccer. Every weekend he would take me and my older brother to local soccer games; these were exciting times for me during those formitive years.
As I grew older I began to realize that soccer was not just soccer but it had life altering lessons, lessons that have the potential of turning any relationship around.
As obvious as it is, soccer teams function as a team. This is an obvious observation but it is pregnant with potential realities.
When couples decide to be a team, a unit, they will be able to face the challenges of life without the fear of having the other "half" pulling the other way. Couples who function as a team understand that problems faced are "our" problems and not "your" problems.
These couples understand that there's strength in numbers. Instead of letting the one partner stew in a problem or challenge alone, they both roll up their sleeves and tackle the challenge as a collective. This of course requires a great deal of maturity from both parties.
Soccer teams have a clear understanding of who the opponent is.
As we grew older, my brother and I started a soccer team. This gave me an opportunity to closely watch the games. In every game played I never saw any of the guys tackling each other. Instead they did everything to ensure that their team mates were protected.
The unfortunate reality is that there are millions of couples who have lost sight of their opponent and started ferociously breaking each others legs. These couples have a very slim chance at making it.
If we want to have lasting relationships, we must avoid by all means breaking the other person; instead we should run to their rescue. There's nothing as bad as winning the battle but losing your partner.
Soccer teams approach every game with a game plan.
No soccer team gets in the field without a clear game plan - a strategy on how to win the game. Unfortunately most couples have no plan whatsoever as to how they will fight, communicate, deal with issues and so on. These couples stumble along in their relationship.
Couples who have set out rules of engagement and abide by them, have healthy relationships and have a clear direction. They trust each other more, which results to a renewed sense of commitment.
Well, I will leave it here for today but do your self a favour and watch your favourite soccer team with the intention of learning a few relationship lessons that will help you love your partner better.
Love God, love you and be in love with your partner
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